We are deep into Autumn – the season associate with the Lungs system. In Chinese Medicine, Lungs are responsible for warding off “pernicious evils” (viruses, bacteria, pollens etc), they control the health of the skin, and are associated with the emotion of grief. Just as being human means to love, and to dream, so does being human mean we grieve. No one is immune.
Grief is overt – the loss of a loved one, a parent, a child. Grief is intangible- lost dreams, aspirations unfilled. Grief is personal – a relationship gone awry. Grief is global – so much suffering and pain every day, throughout the world.
Like all emotions, grief is neither “good” or “bad”, nor is there a “right” way to be with and move through your own grief. From an energy medicine perspective, emotions are meant to felt (rather than suppressed, which leads to stagnation), in their own time. There is of course no set timetable for grief.
As we move through life, we accumulate a “well” of grief or sadness. This is part of being human. The key is to allow for release and letting go, when we can, when the opportunity presents.
I learn a lot from my patients. Some years ago, I was talking with a patient about a recent loss. This was not a Big Loss, but a loss nonetheless. And this wise person said that these “lesser” losses give us an opportunity to release or shed a bit from our deeper well. Which made sense to me. Kind of the same reason sometimes we find ourselves crying over a commercial, or in a movie.
Our bodies are wise, and know what time of year it is. You may find yourself naturally revisiting past losses. Breathe deeply, thank your body for its wisdom, and imagine releasing a bit from your well.
Photo Credit: “GRIEF” by Nurettin Mert AYDIN – https://flic.kr/p/7NH2pU